Woman says boyfriend’s family is furious she didn’t reveal she was pregnant sooner

A couple reveal the pregnancy has turned into a family nightmare.

A woman explained on Reddit’s “Am I A——” forum that her partner’s family reacted unfavorably to them disclosing that they are expectant parents.

“We found out at the hospital that I was pregnant and possibly miscarried,” the 30-year-old woman wrote. “I went on to have a horrible pregnancy where I was sick and didn’t know if this baby was going to make it.”

She added: “Thankfully the baby is ready and we just got news of the gender. My sister decided to do a gender reveal to cheer us up and look forward to the baby. We decided to send this video to our families.”

The woman and her 31-year-old boyfriend did not anticipate his family’s reaction.

“I got nasty texts from my bf’s sisters saying we were wrong for not telling them sooner and that it was their baby too — and I quote, ‘It’s our blood and our baby as much as yours,'” she recalled.

The boyfriend’s mother also responded by saying she is “upset that we took away her moment when she found out she was going to be a grandmother.”

The girlfriend continued, “My bf is super upset with his family because they have no idea what we’ve been going through the past few weeks and we totally regret telling them about the baby.”

Concerned that she and her boyfriend may have fumbled about the pregnancy disclosure to his family, the woman asked fellow Redditors, “Am I a—— for not telling my future in-laws about our pregnancy sooner?”

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One person responded, “You’ve told them about your pregnancy. You just TOLD them. You literally JUST gave your mother-in-law her moment when she found out she was going to be a grandmother!”

The Redditor added, “Shut that b——- about it being ‘their kid too.’ It’s not their kid. It’s your baby. Make it clear now and weather how much drama you have to make it clear.”

“That’s why we can’t have nice things…” added another person. “So the sister vented her anger because your sister knew and she didn’t. Then everyone vented their feelings about it…Completely ignoring the dire medical emergency of a very private nature.”

They concluded, “I’m sorry, Mom. You and your boyfriend have been through a lot. Sounds like you have a lot to be thankful for, too. Congrats on your healthy bun. No NTA.”

Meanwhile, a grandmother added another perspective, writing: “I’m a grandmother and while I think you did nothing wrong and their reaction was over the top, I understand a degree of hurt here. Your sister was told early enough to do a gender reveal. The way you chose to tell your boyfriend’s family made it very clear that they weren’t among the first to know. Pregnancy, I can’t be a scary time and you can’t be a scary time, and I can’t blame you. and I totally disagree with their reaction, but I still understand the hurt.”