The woman says the mother -in -law cannot live with her for “month long distances”

• A woman is on a crossroads with her long mother -in -law, who cannot come to visit and want the couple to move to her
• The woman does not want to leave her home in Canada, and while her husband agrees, he has not denied his mother outward
• Now the woman wants to know how to handle future visits with her in -laws

A woman says she puts her foot down with her husband, whose mother has exceeded her welcome at the couple. But now her demands are even greater.

In a post that is shared to RedditThe woman writes that her mother -in -law, who lives in Pakistan, had planned a trip to the couple’s home in Canada at the end of April, and that she had “fully hosted my mile for 31 days (and not a day more).”

“I was born here, my husband immigrated a decade ago, we got married two years ago and our son is ten months old,” the woman writes. “My parents moved to Canada from Pakistan a year before I was born.”

Her mother -in -law “had originally planned to stay longer (than 31 days), but I had put my foot down and told my husband that I could not deal with someone who lived with us for more than a month, so she had to shorten her plan and did not take it well.”

“I had made my calm with a month’s stay and planned to be cordial below it,” she adds.

But when the woman sent her mother -in -law some pictures of the child via text message, she received an unexpected answer.

“She began to regret how far we were from them and said that this is the problem of marrying someone who is not from Pakistan, that parents suffer as a result, how unfair it is that my parents get her son and grandchildren to themselves,” she writes. “My heart literally shrinked to read it. I knew she was missing us, but to hear her say that she essentially regrets that our marriage was so harmful.”

She continues: “I left her just read. I showed it to my husband, he apologizes and thanked me for not responding to her.”

Days later, the mother-in-law received the news that her visa application had been rejected-which means that her planned trip to see that the couple would not come.

While the woman writes that it felt like “a huge weight has been lifted by me,” she says that her mother -in -law is now “incredible” and has asked her son if the couple can move to Pakistan.

“When he turned off, she gave him his uncle’s number who lives in the United Arab Emirates for jobs so that we could move to the United Arab Emirates,” she writes. “He told her it will be difficult but agreed to talk to him. I was a little angry with this, I told him that there is no way we move to the United Arab Emirates, he of course said that we are not, we have built a life here, he has a great career here, but he did not want to completely shut down.

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Fellow Reddit users say that the couple should plan to meet in a neutral place, rather than traveling to Pakistan and risking a mother-in-law who tries to convince them to stay forever.

Replied the original poster: “I plan to hold our passports with me all the time and have the Canadian Consulate’s number saved on my phone. Our December visit will be for my sword’s wedding so hopefully she will be too busy/happy to be bitter.”