The woman refuses to let her fiancé take her cat while living in separate places

A woman says she refuses to let her fiancé take her Loved cat While they are temporarily living in separate places – and she now wonders if she makes the right call.

26-year-old detailed his story of Reddits “Am I a ——“ Forum, a place where platform users can go to seek advice on interpersonal dilemma. In the post, Redditor explains that she and her fiancé, 28, have been together for five years and have lived together for half that time. But she says they have decided to live separately temporarily.

“Our relationship has become an emotional dead zone – we have not been affectionate or intimate for a long time, and our home is a complete disaster because we honestly speaking, we were just not ready to be on our own,” she explained, leaving, “we have both struggled with our mental health, so we have decided to move back with our parents.

She continues to write that she and her hubby share two cats – coffee beans and suede – and that while the coffee bean is “bound to me”, mocha “is attached to my hubby.”

But the original poster (OP) reveals that while her hubby loves mocha “deeply”, she does not feel “comfortable to let him take her” while living apart.

The reason? She says his fiancé’s mother’s The house is “dirty”.

“He goes over daily to clean, but according to him, the place is knee-depth in garbage, rotting food, spiders and cockroaches,” she writes, adding that while her hubby plans to keep her room specifically, mocha will not be able to wander freely in the rest of the house due to security problems.

“I can’t send Mokka to that environment in good conscience,” she says.

In addition, OP says that her fiancé can be “overwhelmed” by the attention that Mocha requires, sometimes entering “melting mode” when she asks for food or pets “instead of just dealing with what I do.”

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The woman says she does not want to “hurt” her hubby when they got mocked together – even if she is technically the legal owner and The cat’s microchip is in her name.

“I know he loves mocha, but I really don’t think she will be safe or happy with his mother’s house. When I raised this he was upset and we had a struggle, she continued. She finished her post by asking her colleagues Redditors: “Would I be A —— If I refused to let him take mocha?”

Reddit users were quick to make sure they thought her instincts were correct in this situation and that she had the right to refuse to let her fiancé take the cat.

“NTA (not a ——). (It) is not humane or safe for the cats to live in a hoarder -hus,“Wrote a commentator.

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Another person agreed to write: “They are legally yours, the house of the ridicule is inappropriate, and your hubby is not healthy or willing enough to look after the cat’s (…) mental and emotional needs? The benefit should not even want to bring an animal to such a sad harmful environment. You keep both cats at the end of the story. ”

Others noted that moving into such a home may not be best for her hubby either.

“NTA (…). I think your partner has terribly mental health and moving into a hoarder -house is already a horrible idea, he will not be better by living in it. It is completely apart from everything with mocha, “wrote a commentator before he added,” I 1000% think you are in right here. ”

Others said OP may want to think for a long time and hard before they commit to a life with their hubby and noted that some of the behaviors she described seem to be Red flags.

“Your fiancé’s behavior towards the cat, when it does not suit him, is (…) unacceptable,” wrote a person. They continued: “If he does not want to deal with a pet who wants food or wants to play, do not get a pet. It is unacceptable that he gets frustrated, screams at the cat or “enters soiling” (whatever it means). It sounds like he is emotionally stunned and should work on it. ”

“Do you want children in the future? Because your hubby probably isn’t the guy to do it with. Just something to think about, ”added the same commentator.