The woman excludes brother’s “spoiled” children from vacation but takes other children

In families where divorce, re -entry and mixed households are intertwined, decisions that may seem simple – such as planning a holiday – can become emotional mining fields.

That is what a woman faces after deciding to exclude her brother Jason’s youngest child from a planned family trip.

The woman, who shared her story anonymously on RedditHas supported his brother’s three older children, ages 12 to 19, from a previous marriage for several years.

After Jason’s divorce from his first wife, he eventually received full custody of the children. When she left the town, the children moved in with him and his new partner, Jenny.

Originally, Jenny seemed like a welcome change to the family. “She was kind, had a good job and was well educated. I thought, much better match,” writes aunt.

But after having his own child with Jason, Jenny changed “completely.” She quit her job and focused only on raising the child. “She explained that she was just a Sahm for her child,” Aunt reveals.

That shift, she claims, created a clear gap. “Jason, Jenny and (the youngest) act as a family unit, go to dinners, events, even vacation and leave the older three children at home,” she explains.

“I’ve always thought that this was disgusting and expressed my opinion on it, but Jason just said that his divorce broke him emotionally and he will do everything to keep Jenny happy so that their marriage works,” writes Redditor.

Jason, she adds, works over 70 hours a week to support them, while Jenny controls the economy and offers some commitment to parenting the older children.

From abroad, aunt and her wife have often gone in to support Jason’s children. They bought the children a used car, helped cover driving costs and listed them as the “only beneficiaries” in their will after being told that Jason and Jenny planned to leave almost “everything” to their youngest, only give the older three “the naked minimum amount.”

They also began to take the trio on annual trips in the United States, as Jenny and Jason only take their youngest on vacation, usually funded by Jenny’s parents.

“They are very outdoor children so they have had an explosion every year,” she says about the older three children and notes that the trips are “nothing good looking” but still fun.

This year, one of the older teens secured a fall practice, so the usual summer journey was re -planned. When Jason found out, he asked that his youngest child – the one he shares with Jenny – would be included.

But aunt resisted. “I feel so bad to say this about a child, but (she) is a huge brat, spoiled, meant and constantly boasting the things she gets that her siblings don’t,” writes the poster.

She says Tween “throws toddler levels” if she does not get more than everyone else during the holidays, once told the poster and her wife that they “would to hell”, makes him comment on her half -siblings mom and is a “total slob” since “Jenny waiting for her hand and foot.”

“I feel bad to say all this, I hope that when she grows up she grows out of it. But there is no way that I want to take her on a vacation,” she explains.

She admits that any of this may come from the child’s environment, but said she is not comfortable adding that dynamic to the trip.

Jason suggested that Jenny or their mother could join to help manage the group, but aunt declined both proposals. “Love (my mom) but she gets a freaking hip compensation next month and doesn’t want to go,” writes Reddit user.

After telling Jenny and Jason that she did not want to bring her youngest on vacation, the parents decided “to go the way to embarrass us online.”

While their loved ones are still on their side, the poster and her wife are now questioning if they are wrong.

“My wife came to me the other day and basically said: ‘Are we even better than Jenny if we prefer some children over another just because we don’t like their mother?'” She reminds.

It gave her a break. “Before we were evenings out, but now we obviously benefit the oldest,” she admits.

Now the Reddit user is facing any difficult questions without clear answers: Is it right to prioritize some children in a family in front of others? Or should all children be treated in the same way, even if the relationship is not equal?