The woman discovers that she is the only bridesmaid that is not allowed a plus-one at friend’s wedding

One woman says she was surprised and injured to find out that she is the only bridesmaid “denied” a plus-one at her best friend’s upcoming wedding.

The 28-year-old woman explained the situation in a post on Reddit“Wedding cooking” forum, talked about how she asked the bride if she could bring her girlfriend for two years to the wedding after receiving a formal invitation and noted that it is not mentioned a plus.

“The bride said” yes “, but she would only check with the groom. We also had a new quick chat where I said we would be willing to pay for any extra costs for her,” she wrote.

Just a few days later, however, the woman received a text message from the bride “who says sad but I can’t have a plus-one that they have said no to” other guests. “

“Since I live around four hours away and her and her hubby haven’t really met mine (girlfriend), we understood that because the hotel was so expensive and it is a trip she would stay with me but not participate the wedding or reception .

But when she thought more about it and “learned more information”, the woman began to question the real reason behind the couple’s choice to deny her a plus. She wondered if it might be because she only met the groom a few times, but then she was told that another bridesmaid, whose partner has only met the groom once, received a plus invitation.

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“Obviously, my girlfriend gets a little offended and is honest not to go now even though she received a complete formal invitation,” the woman wrote. “I am so broken (if) to be part of the wedding party. I will not reject or make drama, but I think this is the beginning of a more distant friendship between (the bride and me).”

When the woman told her mother and sister about the situation, they called the soon-to-be-married couple’s actions “rude” and even suggested “The groom can hesitate because we are the only queer couple that would be part of the wedding party.”

In the comment section, Reddit users encouraged the woman to stand up for herself and skip the wedding.

“Don’t go. Send your regrets and let it be. You already know in the gut, this is a crap friend who doesn’t support you. Why even entertain to spend money or emotional bandwidth on them?” One person wrote.

“I would not go. Your friend does not respect your relationship but want you to stand up to honor her. It would be a no from me,” commented another.

Many others accused the bride and her hubby of being homophobic.

“OP (original poster), are all other plus-one in straight relationships? Something doesn’t seem right …” A commentator suggested, which made someone else answer, “Yes … it would be a thing if that was an objective standard like no plus-ons if you are not married, but they clearly pronounce her. ”

“I think you have to read between the lines and get Memo,” another Redditor chimped. The message is very clear. Save yourself some time and money. “