The woman called “selfish” for not wanting to share rooms with the family when they visit

A woman is less than satisfied with the prospect of having to share her private space with two young relatives for the summer.

29-year-old detailed his dilemma in a post on Reddit‘s popular’ I am a —— ” forum, which starts by explaining that she owns her house with her mother and sister and that the basement is her ‘private’ domain. OP (original poster) said that her mother recently informed her that a cousin from abroad – which she “barely” knows – and her two young children will stay throughout the summer.

The two children will sleep in the spare room in the basement – much to OP’s chagrin. For context, she explained at Reddit that her basement space contains her bedroom, the spare room, a living room and a bathroom.

“I don’t even know the names of my cousin’s child at all, and I value my personal space and quiet. I also work night shifts, so when I get home in the morning to sleep I do not want to be disturbed with any sound,” she wrote and shared some of her concerns about the event.

But when she protested the plan, her mother called her “selfish”.

Addition to OP’s frustrations, she had been looking forward to having the house completely for herself “for once” when her sometimes “strenuous” mother and sister leave a 10-day cruise next month. When she raised this point with her mother, her answer was: “Well, now you won’t be home alone.”

“I told her that she made this decision without considering me at all and that I do not plan to host or entertain someone while they are gone,” wrote OP and described a former instance when a cousin visited and her mother “pressed” her to give that family member to act. “I’m afraid the story will repeat itself, but 3x so much because she brings her children too.”

OP said that instead of enjoying an empty house herself, she is now considering “seriously” that decreases to a hotel during the ten days that mom and sister will be away on her cruise “just to have peace.”

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“It feels like my space and comfort was completely apart from, and I don’t want to give up my personal space,” she finished her post and asked other Redditors, “Aita (am I a ——) in this situation?”

In the comments, many readers shared the view that OP’s mother has no right to tell her that she has to give up her private space in a home that she together owns.

“You are treated as if you are an adult who lives in a home that only belongs to the parent. This is not the case here: you own the home. Your expected personal space is literally your space; You own it, “A person wrote.” So you have every right to expect your usual private space to remain private, and especially to decide who will and will not be in the house with you when the other owner is not there. ”

Someone else chimped in, “Your mom is ignoring that you own the place is wild. She can’t just override your limits because it is convenient for her, especially when you work nights and need silent.”

Many people prevailed against the idea to retreat to a hotel and claim that she would not have to leave her own home and waste her money.

“Why should you be the one on the hook in ten days of hotel expenses and be the one whose space is invaded?” asked a Redditor.

Several others told us that this sticky situation can be a strong sign that she should consider getting her own place to avoid such conflicts in the future.

“It may be better for your mom and sister to buy you because they treat you that you neither own nor pay rent. Take your part and get your own place,” a commentator suggested.