The woman called “selfish” after she doesn’t let the family stay in her college apartment

A woman seeks advice from the Reddit community after refusing to let her family stay in her apartment while her roommates are gone.

In a post that is shared on the popular Aita subreddit, the 20-year-old college student asks if she is wrong not to offer her space.

“I am (20f) in college and rent an apartment with two of my friends (20f) who is in a relationship,” she writes in Her postExplains the life arrangement. “So our apartment is two bedrooms and it works for us.”

Both her roommates recently informed her that they were on their way home to visit their families “for a few weeks” and told her they would be okay if she had people over.

When her mother found out that the apartment would mostly be empty, she immediately asked to come with her husband and the poster’s two half -siblings. But the poster is uncomfortable with her family staying in the small space.

“I told my mom that there was not enough room for everyone and she said that I am used to sharing with my half siblings and could do it again,” she shares. That proposal quickly triggered memories from her children’s life situation.

When she lived at home, she was forced to share a bedroom with her half -siblings, who are 11 and 13 years younger than her respectively. “We only had one house with two bedrooms and Mom said it was not a priority to get a new room,” she explains and adds, “I hated it.”

In fact, part of the reason is that she avoids visiting home that she is still expected to share a room with the children. “It makes my mom crazy so she said they can come to stay because I won’t,” she writes. “I told her it doesn’t take care of sharing a room problem.”

Even with her roommates away, she still does not feel comfortable squeezing her family into space, especially since the installation has not changed from what she grew up with. “She said it’s not a big deal and I said it is and it was always, she just never cared.”

Her mother accused her of being “selfish”, insisting that the family makes an effort by choosing to visit her and “take time from her summer to come and see me.”

Despite the pressure, she is stuck and suggests that her mother look at other alternatives. “I told them they should find an Airbnb if they want to visit but Mom said no,” she writes.

Her stepfather then chimped in, claiming that the poster “favored them so the least I could do is to provide accommodation for free.”

Over the past four weeks, the subject continues to come without signs of resolution.

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Her mother tries to appeal to her emotionally and says that the younger siblings miss her and are confused about why she never comes home. “She told me that she misses her first child and doesn’t understand that I am pulling as I have,” she adds.

But for the young woman everything comes back to how she felt growing up. “There is just no way I want to share with two children and one of them is my half brother who always made it more difficult for me,” she writes.

As she continues to face debt and pressure from her family, she turns to Reddit to ask if she is really unreasonable.