The woman asks for “stock response” for mother -in -law’s unwanted comments

A woman is looking for “firm yet unoffensive phrases” which she may have ready to answer her mother -in -law invasive comments, questions and debt trips.

In a post that is shared to RedditThe anonymous 30-year-old woman writes that she and her husband are planning a trip to visit her in-laws, and she “predicts unwanted pregnancy/baby advice/stories/requirements when we visit.”

Since she is now six months pregnant, she writes that she wants to “have some share response ready, where we can make boundaries clear and not ambush in agreeing on something (who, Christmas or visit) without discussing it, and saving myself from reacting overly (I know I’m more annoyed than usual now I’m pregnant!”

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SINCE SHE’S Gotten Pregnant, The Woman Writes That Her Mother-In-Law Has “Made Suggestions About ‘Multigerational Living’ (IE: She Wants to Move In When The Baby Comes) Which Husband Shut Down Instantly, Made as Peculi Judem Pregnant … and there was a bizarrely manipulative attempt to find out what the baby’s surname will be (I did not take house band’s Name When We got married) which involved some weird lies about “having to put it in its will.” ”

“In short, she will surely have lots of opinions on how to act, how to raise the child, when can she expect to see us and how much access she will expect to be a baby etc.,” writes the woman in the post.

She ends her post with a foundation for Reddit: “What are some fixed but still unoffensive phrases that I may have ready to answer her comments, shoulders and questions and give to (my) man also to use?”

Hundreds of other Reddit users have weighed in, with many who offer suggestions on how to respond to the woman’s mother-in-law.

“” Thank you for thinking about us, but we don’t know what X will look like for us yet “and” We have already decided Y on advice from our midwife, however thank you, “suggests one.

Offers another: “We use a lot of” We will notify you “, thank you for the offer”, “We don’t need it right now,” “I have to check with (significant other) and get back to you,” and even just smile without saying anything. I think the more I lower my expectations, the easier it is to handle. I definitely have more emotionally with it in the beginning and time and practice answering me.