Man Living Rent-Free says that girlfriend can only move in if she shares costs 50/50

A man seeks support from the Reddit community about a disagreement with his girlfriend on how to distribute costs if they move in together.

The poster, a 28-year-old man who makes “quite good money”, shares that his girlfriend is at the research school and lives on a small scholarship and student loans.

“My girlfriend wants to move in with me,” he begins His postadds that he currently lives in a house owned by his grandparents and does not pay the rent at their insistence.

His girlfriend, on the other hand, struggles with high living expenses, because “her current rent alone takes almost all of her scholarship every month”, not to mention tools, food, health insurance, car payments and debt.

She knows the press even more when her landlord raises the rent, and she has struggled to find a safe place that is in her budget and big enough for her and her dog. “So she wants to move in with me,” he writes, hoping to find a solution that works for both of them.

He currently shares the house with a close friend, who pays all tools instead of rent. The girlfriend wants the friend to move out if she moves in, which the friend is “good to do.”

The couple’s main dispute is how to handle the economy. “I have talked to my GF and said that if she moves in, we should share the common bills and expenses 50/50,” he writes.

However, his girlfriend is very much against doing so and thinks it should be proportionate. ”

He points out that a proportional split would mean that he pays “practically all joint expenses.” At the same time, a 50/50 split would still be financially feasible for his girlfriend.

“Right now, her living expenses are exponentially higher than her scholarship. With this 50/50 split, they would be significantly smaller than her scholarship,” he notes, emphasizing that he would also pay more than he does now because he currently does not pay anything for tools.

Despite this, his girlfriend still insists on a proportional split and claims he can afford it.

The poster stands firm and tells her that “if she insists on a proportional divide, we cannot live together”, which leads to her becoming frustrated and stressed by the situation.

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Now he has left wondering if he is unreasonable because he wants to share spending evenly, or if his girlfriend’s request for a proportional split is justified, given her limited funds. He finally turned to Reddit to ask if he is wrong in his request, and the answers are mixed.

“Do you see this person as a long -term life partner/husband? If so, it will help her during school help you both in the long term,” wrote a commentator.

Others weighed into the split given the unique circumstances.

“I’m usually for a shared proportional to income,” added another. “But since there would be no rent for her to pay thanks to your family, and you would stop a deal that suits you to make her move in, and her expenses would be reduced by moving in, I think 50-50 would be fair here.”