Bridesmaid is shocked after friend marries without her there

• A mumnet user was asked to be a bridesmaid at a friend’s summer wedding a year in advance
• But she has since discovered that the bride had a separate ceremony and changes her summer plans to a party
• The woman admitted she was “injured” that she was not invited to the ceremony and torn if she were to confront the bride

A woman is unsure about talking about not being invited to her long -standing friend’s wedding will “destroy” their relationship.

On Sunday, April 13, she attached a long post on the British based forum MumnetExplains that she has a friend of 15 years who she considers to be “as a sister” and was a bridesmaid at her own wedding. The woman said that regardless of living “miles apart” and being busy with children, they have maintained regular contact.

She “accepted happily” when her friend asked her last year to be a bridesmaid at her wedding and busted herself by arranging a bachelor with the other members of the bride party, which she had not met and everyone lived near the bride.

“Bride has been a bit vague on wedding recent events, but I understood that it was a ceremony with a known person at a stately home followed by a reception after,” the woman wrote.

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But she received a message from the bride last week that she already had a legal ceremony followed by a meal with the other bridesmaids and family presence.

The bride confirmed that the plans for the summer would now be to have a festive party with “bridesmaids, hair and makeup, etc., the full store you can expect,” but it will not be a wedding.

The woman said that the other bridesmaids did not mention that the bride had already tied the knot, and after checking their WhatsApp messages, it turned out that she had never been invited to the legal ceremony.

“I haven’t felt to say anything because I don’t want to ruin this time for her but AIBU (am I unreasonable) to feel hurt and disappointed that I was not there?” She wrote and talked about the bride. “I pay $ for a bachelor, and the expectations were for my family (DH (dear husband) and 3 young DC (dear child)) and I to go to the wedding later this year. I could have gone down myself to be there.”

“My DH is angry on my behalf and is really not anxious to go to the” wedding “because it will be $ and would be a bit of a hike with our children anyway but he was looking forward to it and now it’s good, feels a little flat,” she continued.

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Desperately for advice, she asked, “What would you do? Would you say anything? Aibu? I don’t want to ruin our friendship, but what friendship?!”

Reply to the post empathy with the woman who felt hurt by her friend’s actions but is demolished if she were to confront the bride.

“I wouldn’t say anything but I would pull out everything that will cost you a lot of money. It really is really,” said a commentator.

“It’s the fact that all other bridesmaids went and kept it from you, and you were not even asked. It’s not on,” Another chimped.

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While others advised the woman to put her feelings aside and go to the party, several comments said that she should first talk to the bride.

“I would talk to her about this and get the whole explanation but I can’t think of many scenarios that would result in me wanting to pay some money to go to her upcoming parties,” one person wrote.

“I would say something that I completely understand to do the legal part in advance but I am a little lost that the other two bridesmaids and their families were invited but I was not,” shared another. “Then I would continue with everything else as normal.”