The woman wonders if she is the “meniscus girl” at work

• A woman wrote on Reddit that she “begins to feel like the average girl” after a woman she calls “Monica” accused her and another friend to make her feel “out of
• The woman says the drama started after she and the other friend decided to move in together and did not invite Monica to live with them
• The woman, who detailed her experience with Reddit, now wonders if she is “A ——” in the situation-trot that she says Monica “is quite meaningful and uncertain”

One woman says she has had interpersonal problems with a work friend, but she is not sure who is wrong.

The woman detailed her experience on the popular Reddit forum “Am I a ——?” In a post entitled “(…) I start to feel like the average girl.” In the post, the woman shared that a “friend/colleague” recently accused her and another friend of making her feel excluded.

The Reddit user explained that she started bartending in a new city about a year ago and “hit it immediately” with a colleague she called “Rachel.” She said she and Rachel would spend time after work “most nights” and were often united by a third colleague, whom Redditor calls “Monica.”

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However, the original poster (OP) noted that she and Rachel came closer to time and “started doing things together that had nothing to do with work.” She said that they eventually decided to become roommates, which made Monica “jealous” because she wanted to live with them too. She added that after she and Rachel realized that they did not want to live with Monica, they began to “analyze” their dynamics with her.

“We realized that Monica is quite meaningful and insecure. There are little things and small comments,” explained OP and added, “It’s so strange when she comments and laughs at you when there are only two in the room, like who is your audience?”

Now OP claims that Monica is “aware that we are pulling away”, which has led her to “demand to be included.”

“We include her in the ways that feel natural but reach a point (where) we don’t even want to be friends with her,” shared the woman. “She wants to be included in every conversation and wants to be interested in every information we share with each other.”

She added: “Last night we had one on a conversation where she said she has never felt more from a group before and said she was injured we did not share information with her about our personal lives.”

OP said she feels like an “A ——” because she doesn’t think Monica has many friends-but at the same time Monica wants us to let us be friends as much as feels natural. ”

She added, “It feels like we’re in 3rd grade and that means not inviting her to every sleep.”

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Fellow Reddit users largely agreed that she is not “A ——” in this situation; But several of them also noted that they think she and Rachel should be more in advance with Monica and let her know why they have pulled away.

“Have you ever told her (gently) the real reasons why you both pull away?” One person asked. Tell her the truth. Be honest with her about the things she says and insult you or make you uncomfortable. Maybe she tries to impress you with her comments and behavior and does not realize how she encounters. If it is not social immaturity, and she is really a joke, say what you need to help her understand and stick to boundaries that you put across. ”

“NTA (not A ——),” added someone else. “But I would be more in advance with Monica. Let her know that her rude comments/ laughter at you (not with you) is strange.”