The groom family members are “declining” wedding invitations because of dress code

A bride says that her hubby family members “decline” to participate in their upcoming wedding because they are not satisfied with the dress code.

In a post Reddit“Wedding Planning” forum, the bride shared a screenshot of text messages her hubby received from her mother. A read, “Ryan’s reason for not being able to participate and (probably) some others are the dress code. Just let you know.”

A follow -up message said: “I have some who say they don’t have proper clothing and would never wear what they bought if they went.”

To give the context about the situation, the bride noted that the wedding date is April 17, the day before Good Friday, and also shared a screenshot of the dress code information provided to the guests on the couple’s wedding website.

Women were instructed to wear “tea length, midi or full length dresses or a dress jumpsuit/set.” The couple noted that “spring/summer colors” and floral patterns, frills and ruffles are “very encouraged”, even though they requested women to avoid carrying something white, cream or ivory because these shades are “reserved for the bride.”

When it comes to men, the couple has told them “that is the perfect moment to dress out” with their partner. “We ask for no denim or ball caps,” they wrote. “A nice dress shirt and pants will make – maybe a sweet floral tie for bonus points!”

To help their guests understand their vision, the couple also gave a series of inspirational photos of pastel -colored clothes that would fit the theme.

Continued her post, the bride admitted that she is “quite shocked” by the guests’ reactions to the clothing lines. “Didn’t think they would take it like this,” she wrote.

The bride continued to claim that she and her hubby pay for the wedding themselves and spent a lot of money so they “don’t want jeans.”

Now she asks colleagues to weigh in with her opinions and write: “Be honest if I put what I put was offensive or absurd.”

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In the comments, some people assured the bride that she and her hubby did not ask anything extreme of their guests.

“‘No ball caps or jeans’ is pretty much the lowest, most minimal dress code that I can imagine,” read a comment. “I can’t imagine not owning a pair of slacks/chinos/khakis/* something* for funerals, weddings, date evening, etc. Or if I didn’t, I can’t imagine setting up such a hassle about buying a couple. They can trade online, clearance sales. “

Others, however, suggested that guests may have been postponed by inspirational photos.

“The words (dress code) are mostly okay, but the moment I saw the mood board I immediately knew I had nothing that would match and felt an internal moan,” one person wrote. “I think you should only focus on the fact that you want cocktail clothes rather than specific colors because your message gets confused.”

Another agreed to comment, the “mood disc/floral tie/color criteria is frightening and is likely to distract people from the fact that you simply request pants + a dress shirt (a very reasonable request).”

The former comment suggested a possible solution: “I think it can get the point to describe what you want as” Easter’s best “without working for restrictively.”

Some other shared view that it is perfectly acceptable to provide general guidelines for guests for guests, but to become too specific when it comes to colors and details it takes too far.

“I’m not a fan of this new trend to try to force guests on color palettes,” they wrote. “I believe that everything beyond awarding the formality level and asking people not to carry white/ivory/cream, asks many guests and make them feel like accessories.”